Monday, 16 September 2013

10 Things To Give Up For Happiness

We are always told that happiness comes from more, more, MORE. We need to have more, do more, be more, but actually, sometimes giving things up makes us our most happiest. Here are ten things that I personally no longer partake in that have helped to make me a happier person.

1. Women's magazines

Have you ever actually read the covers of these things? Most women's magazines are glorious bitch fests. 'She's too fat'. 'She's too thin'. 'He's cheating on her'. 'You're too old to do that.' 'She has cellulite'. Women's magazines are designed to manipulate women's insecurities so that they spend, spend, SPEND. Gossip, shopping, embarrassment, cruelty - they might as well have been written by the devil himself. I used to be addicted to these magazines when I was a teenager, but as I got older, I realised these magazines were not enriching the person I was in any way. Yes, we all have our guilty pleasures but this was no longer one of mine. The majority of women's magazines (with few exceptions) are not designed to celebrate women but to berate them. They also encourage habits, such as gossiping, excessive spending and self-criticism, which in the long run will not make you a happy bunny. I felt much better in myself since I decided to pass these by. I don't care who is sleeping with who or who gained/lost weight...WHO CARES?

2. Music Videos

Possibly I'll be in an army of one here, but I literally haven't watched a music channel for YEARS. My reason? All I ever saw were glorified advertisements, obnoxious egos and gross stereotypes of harems of women gyrating against a super star. I quickly identified that I wasn't the intended audience for these videos and I could gain nothing from them. I love music and there are some great videos out there but I will never sit and watch a music channel...only if you paid me too.

3. Passivity

A lot of times in life I have been incredibly passive. I have expected things to happen for me, perhaps in the way an indulged child might, without having any understanding that it is only ever me and only ever has been me that can make something happen in my life. If I don't take action, it won't happen. Yes, sometimes you will be hit with strokes of luck, but you can't depend on the bolts to keep hitting. Even if you won the lottery, you still had to go and buy a ticket.

4. Procrastination

Directly linking with passivity is procrastination. You might have a long to do list, but you continuously put off ticking anything off of it. Procrastination sometimes links to either a fear of failure or a fear of success. If you can force yourself to leave your comfort zone and do what needs to be done, you will slowly grow to feel better and grow in confidence and accomplishment.

5. Sleeping In

Sleeping in is the luxury of students and retirees and though I am not a morning person and am always reluctant to leave my bed in the morning, sleeping in is not a favourite indulgence of mine any longer. I wake up and feel as if the day is running away from me like a wild horse and I inevitably always feel guilty and more overwhelmed as I struggle to cram more into the remaining time open to me. I'll leave the lie in's for when I'm unwell. Otherwise, get up, get out and get going!

6. Bad People

Sometimes you have to let certain people in your life go. On the serious end of the spectrum, you may have to cut loose people who have seriously wronged you. It might be that you just need to cut loose people who criticise, are unsupportive or unhelpful. You shouldn't feel guilty in doing so. You should always surround yourself with a team of people who are rooting for you and want to see you do well. The world can be full of enough negative naysayers. Your friends should not be amongst them.

7. Materialism

It's impossible to live in Western Civilisation, the influence of which is now a worldwide contagion and not be somewhat materialistic. We are often defined by what we own and possess. Our possessions say something about who we are. To some people, there money and there material possessions mean more to them than the people they encounter day to day. Materialism can manifest as excessive shopping to quell a feeling of unrest or insecurity inside. If you watch a lot of TV and read a lot of magazines, you'll almost certainly be bullied and badgered by the latest trends. When I travelled poorer South Eastern regions of the world, materialism wasn't so endemic. Fashion, make up, big cars - it wasn't such a 'thing'. In our world being able to buy bigger and better, even if it bankrupts you, has become something we participate in even against our own will and better judgement. Buy what you truly want and what you truly need - all the rest is irrelevant and will not increase your happiness long term.

8. Facebook Stalking

Isn't everyone guilty of this, and if not on Facebook, then on one or another of the various social mediums? The truth is, the grass is no greener on the other side, it's just been presented that way. Focusing too much on what other people are doing, or PRESENTING themselves as doing, is not a productive way to feel good about yourself. When the mind (and the mouse) begins to wander, you need to reign it back in.

9. Reading the News

This is one I wouldn't advocate that everybody follows, but it really works for me. I am quite a sensitive person and I can be completely bulldozed over by bad news, especially when you have to read about it every single day. I used to read a London based newspaper on my way to work in the mornings and found myself feeling miserable. It wasn't just the early morning or the commute, it was the fact that all I was presented with was murder, war, crime, poverty and a floundering job market. Do we need to read about this every day? Do we need to be presented with situations to which there are not always a solution? Also, if there is something actually IMPORTANT I need to know about (and arguably most news is not), someone I know who is in with the news will tell me all about it.

10. Soft drinks

Maybe I am making myself sound more and more boring but as a general rule, I never drink soft drinks. I try to drink as much water as I can in a day and I try to make it water with lemon. Soft drinks are a great way to make yourself feel bad very fast after the sugar rush crashes down. Water will never give you the high, but it won't give you the low either!

Sunday, 15 September 2013

Ten Old Time Screen Sirens

1. Audrey Hepburn
Delicate, elfin and facially the cataclysmic clash of a child with a kitten, Audrey's accessible adorable beauty epitomised woman-child sultriness. Despite remarking that she never could perceive nor understand her own popularity and idealised beauty, Audrey is still a prevalent modern day icon, epitomising easy, subtle style, endearing elegance and quirky femininity.

Quote: I never thought I'd land in pictures with a face like mine.
Quick Fact: Her Yorkshire terrier was named 'Mr Famous'

2. Ava Gardner
'A-vuh Gaaardner' had an exquisite womanly beauty. Widely heralded as one of the most beautiful women of her day, she was eye catching enough to draw the attention of crooner Frank Sinatra. Her unique chin dimple was emphasised with make-up to draw out the chiselled perfection of her facial structure.
Quote: When I lose my temper, honey, you can't find it any place.
Quick Fact: Frank Sinatra adorned her with the pseudonym 'Angel'

3. Doris Day
With a name that reflected her nature, Doris was an effervescent sunbeam of enthusiasm, cheer and joy. Happiness personified, she had a wholesome, innocent, Aryan beauty with her bright blue eyes, butter blonde hair and wide smile.
Quote: Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.
Quick Fact: Turned down the role of Mrs Robinson in 'The Graduate'
4. Judy Garland
Judy was a troubled child actress with an elfin, childish beauty catapulted to fame as Dorothy in 'The Wizard of Oz'. Her delightful, rich voice and wide-eyed innocence dripped with cynicism provided her with an intelligent, endearing reach to audiences.
Quote: I wanted to believe and I tried my damndest to believe in the rainbow that I tried to get over and couldn't. So what? Lots of people can't...
Quick Fact: On the day of her death, a tornado blew through Kansas.

5. Marilyn Monroe
Possibly the most potent yester-year icon celebrated by today's world, Marilyn was a glamorous, powerful sexual symbol with a voluptuous, curvaceous, bodacious beauty. Halfway between a Botticelli angel and a lioness, Marilyn embodied a playful, unabashed sexuality and initiated the wave of blonde bombshells.
Quote: Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.
Quick Fact: Marilyn suffered with a stutter.
6. Rita Hayworth

The most famous of the red heads, bestowed with Bambi brown eyes, Rita was born to a family of dancers and became renowned for her marvellous hair flick in 'Gilda'. Her exotic appearance was a departure from the gothic brunettes and sunshine blondes that abounded in cinema.
Quote: No one can be Gilda 24 hours a day.
Quick Fact: Her natural hair colour was not red but black.

7. Grace Kelly
Before she went on to become a Princess, gorgeous, swan-like Grace, with her delicate sensuality, was already living somewhat of a real life fairy tale as a movie star. Her poised, reserved demeanour belied hidden, mysterious depths that created an immense and engaging presence.
Quote: Hollywood amuses me. Holier-than-thou for the public and unholier-than-the-devil in reality.
Quick Fact: Her movies were banned in Monaco by her husband.
8. Greta Garbo
Swedish Garbo was known as 'the Face' before Elle Macpherson was 'the Body'. The quote 'I want to be alone' was misattributed to her, actually Greta did not want to be pestered by the ravenous media who hounded her.
Quote: I don't want to be a silly temptress. I cannot see any sense in getting dressed up and doing nothing but tempting men in pictures.
Quick Fact: She was the preferred actress of Adolf Hitler.
9. Lauren Bacall
With her full features and obvious sexuality, Lauren could definitely work the look that would launch a thousand ships. Her sly, aware eyes and slight smile made her a clear smouldering sensuality.
Quote: I think your whole life shows in your face and you should be proud of that.
Quick Fact: Is half Romanian ethnically.
10. Jean Harlow
An ice blonde nicknamed baby, Jean had a cut-glass quality and was known for her fast mouth and witty wise cracks.
Quote: Men like me because I don't wear a brassiere. Women like me because I don't look like a girl who would steal a husband. At least not for long.
Quick Fact: Supposedly slept nude.



Monday, 9 September 2013

10 ways to add a HOOK to your look...

1. Red Lips
Rita Hayworth and her signature red lips
Red lips are as classic as the little black dress. There is a shade for everyone, and they immediately make you appear seductive, sultry and glamorous with an old world appeal.

2. Gold Nails
Gold is a colour that just screams luxury and that's how wearing it on your nails will make you feel: luxurious.
3. Blue/Green/Gold or Red Eye Liner

I couldn't choose between these four gorgeous colours because they are all so striking. Engage others with your eyes by truly making them pop and treating them like the jewels they are.

Blue: Electrifies Eyes.
Gold: Enlivens Eyes
Green: Mystifies Eyes
Red: Emboldens Eyes

4. Gold Lipstick
Gold on the lips is a really powerful signifier. It will make every word and every kiss truly luxurious. Gold also lends a great warmth and fire to the complexion.
5. Beauty Spot
Marilyn Monroe made the beauty spot famous. It adds a childish mischievousness to a look and adds a point of interest to a classically beautiful face.
6. Piercings
Piercings can look feminine and again add a point of interest to a look. There are many interesting piercings to experiment with. My favourites are ears, navels and noses, but I've also seen a few very beautiful eye brow rings!
7. Tattoos
It's true that tattoos are somewhat overdone in the 21st century, but an unusual, unique and beautiful tattoo is still possible to achieve. If you consider the body to be a blank canvas, you can really enjoy filling it with meaningful artwork.
8. Anklet
Anklets draw attention to the foot and ankle; a very feminine and exquisite spot. The Victorians used to be very particular about drawing attention to this area, even going so far as to cover piano and table legs.
9. Wearing White
Wearing white has numerous positive connotations, but wearing white around the face quite literally illuminates it and lends it an effervescent glow.
10. Add Colour
Inject as much colour into your outfits as possible. You'll feel happier and more expressive.


The 10 best things that Alan has ever done

1.       Stick his cheese in Tony Hayers face

2.       Dump his girlfriend Jill for pouring chocolate mousse over him. Everyone knows that’s just demented

3.       Thrown up inside a podium

4.       Trod on a spike

5.       Gorged on Toblerone and drove to Dundee in bare feet

6.       Shot a guest

7.       Got Pat sacked...

8.       Lived in a travel tavern

9.       Narrowly avoided a threesome

10.   Passed off a stalkers home as his own and then sped away referring to him as a mentalist

Friday, 6 September 2013

How to grow long, healthy hair

Gorgeous Burgundy Red hair that completely throws my rule about dying out of the window!
 Our society is fixated on long tresses. Associated with Princesses and Mermaids, there is something mystical about having long hair. Traditionally, long hair signified fertility, femininity and abundance. Despite the ever-increasing popularity of short hair and the influx of gorgeous and stunning short styles, the majority of us still elect for long hair. It’s easier in many ways to care for, it’s convenient to throw it up in a ponytail or a bun on hot days and on days when something extra special is required, longer hair is the ideal muse for intricate and gorgeous experimental styles. It can be worn poker straight, or embrace tousles, waves or curls.
If you want to grow out a short style or simply increase the length of your already long hair, here are natural ways to achieve that full, healthy head of hair you crave.
Even the cat knows it...

The first step required is something you either have or you haven’t – it’s PATIENCE! Hair grows approximately half an inch each and every month. Some people’s hair grows at an accelerated rate, and others grow more slowly. Hair also has an interesting concept of time...
Did you know that the hair grows in stages? Every individual follicle is genetically pre-programmed to follow a particular growth pattern. The growing stage lasts between 3-5 years. After growth, hair enters a resting period. Finally follows the shedding stage, when older hairs, just like autumnal leaves will be depleted, allowing newer, healthier hairs to grow. Intriguingly not every hair follows this process at the same time. Some of your hairs will be growing whilst others are resting. This is why your hair may be predominantly one length but you may have the odd, unexplainable ‘racer’ hair that is tracks ahead of all the others!
If you follow these steps to care for your hair, the essential ingredient is to be patient with this natural process. Your body is growing your hair all the time; it just needs the correct tools and assistance from you.
Would you notice she was wearing extensions if you didn't look closely?
Again, would you know Paris's beautiful blonde hair was mostly extensions if you didn't look for the tell tale signs?
Okay, this one is obvious...

One of the biggest mistakes people make is to compare ANYTHING about themselves to celebrities. More celebrities are wearing extensions, weave and fake hair that you probably even realise. This can give ordinary people who do not wish to wear fake hair a real complex about what their own natural hair should look like.
Extensions are ordinarily kept in far better condition that natural long hair, which has to sustain an active lifestyle and also tend to be thicker. They are also better able to take the damage of dyes and styling because they can be removed and replaced when wear and tear begins to show. Not so with your own hair, unless you are happy to regularly chop off, start again and re-grow.
Instead of comparing to stars who are probably changing from blonde to red, long to short every other week (with the help of wigs, extensions and weaves), look at childhood pictures of yourself to gauge the thickness, style and type of hair you were naturally endowed with. Compare yourself to yourself and not to the fake, expensive and unattainable imagery we are bombarded with every day. Have healthy and natural expectations of what your hair can do.
You can still get your protein in if you are Vegetarian or Vegan. Research your options


What we eat goes into every part of our body. It is no different with your hair. Made from keratin (as are your nails), human hair thrives on protein. I won’t bore you by ordering you to eat healthily; I will only say that a balanced diet is heralded as ideal for good reason. Up your protein levels if you wish to see an improvement in the growth and quality of your hair. Eggs, meat and vegetables are ideal sources. A good multi-vitamin, or a particular vitamin that you may be lacking, are also ideal to keep levels topped up. A good way to test whether your hair may be low in protein is to keep check of your nails, skin and eyes. If they are all looking dull and dowdy, believe that your hair is feeling the same!

Drink, drink, drink! 8 glasses a day is the ideal


Our body thrives on moisture. Our skin needs it to keep supple. Our hair needs it to prevent it becoming dry and breakable. Adults are advised to drink approximately two litres of water a day (that translates to about 8 glasses), but people have different opinions on how much you should drink. Remember, a lot of your fluid will also come from dietary sources such as fruits and vegetables. Water IS the best option so don’t think 12 colas a day will be suitable for your purposes!
Regular masks will help make hair resilient to damage


I love face masks, and I also love hair masks (although I rarely hair mask unfortunately!). Hair masks replace any lost moisture and although they cannot undo existing damage, they are a great way to pre-empt and prepare for future damage. Healthy, moisturied hair is less likely to become dry and break off. You can mask as often or as little as you like. Once every two weeks is advisable but for very damaged hair you should apply more frequently. You do not need to invest in a purchasable mask if you don’t wish to. You can make your own from homemade ingredients by looking at the myriad of natural recipes online. A quick and easy way is to smother hair in olive oil or coconut oil and sleep on it overnight. In the morning, wash your hair as usual. Hair will feel smooth, soft and silky.
Swimming caps don't need to be unfashionable...



A large proportion of hair damage stems from just enjoying life: swimming in chlorinated swimming pools, or salty seas and then allowing hair to dry in the frazzling sun. Of course, we still want to lead active, enjoyable lifestyles. We don’t want to be the girl at the pool sitting on the side scared to get wet!

You can decide to wear a swimming cap, hat, spray hair with protective UV sprays (coconut oil is also great as a natural alternative) and keep hair in up styles. It is better if hair does NOT get wet for long periods in chlorine and sea salt as these can be so drying, so if you have the option to swim in fresh water, this will be MUCH better for your hair. This isn’t particularly realistic nor feasible for most of us, so I say get wet, life is short. Just pamper your hair afterwards.
Don't be bullied into excessive trimming. Understand your hair.

7.       TRIM, TRIM, TRIM

Firstly, I disagree with the frequency of trimming advised. Some people, particularly hair dressers and stylists, will advise that you get a trim every six weeks. If hair grows about half an inch a month and you commit to regular trims, you can potentially (if you have a scissor happy stylist) be cutting off all of your growth EVERY month.
My personal advice, after having so many stylists cut about 3 inches when I wanted a trim, is to keep close inspection of your hair. Do the ends look healthy? Are there any splits? If not, you really don’t need that trim. Of course the good thing about trims is that they will also ensure your hair never gets damaged. If your hair is prone to damage, get it trimmed, but really consider how often YOU feel this is needed. You might agree that every six weeks is great, or you might decide your hair can last longer. I am also so sick of stylists cutting more than I’ve requested that I let my mum give me a tiny trim. If you know someone you can trust with scissors (preferably a friend with hairstyling experience), pass them the scissors. If you are personally scissor savvy, you might like to trim your own.



Treat yourself! I really need to buy one of these!


Massaging the scalp stimulates blood circulation and thus hair growth. Before I even knew this, I’ve always been the type to sit and play with my hair and massage my head. If you have a partner or friend who loves giving massages, take advantage! Otherwise, you can perform your own. 5-10 minutes is sufficient. Exercise in general is also great for growth believe it or not because it stimulate the entirely of your circulatory system.
You said it, sister!


A large cause of hair loss is stress. Stress impacts the body in a whole host of ways and not even scientists fully understand why. Stress can be responsible for acne, rashes and ulcers. It’s important to find a way of relaxation that works for you. It might be yoga, meditation, exercise, music, reading, journaling or regular spa treatments.
I totally sleep like this...


Your body beautifies itself in its sleep. Now I won’t nag about the importance of a good night’s rest. It’s not always possible (or desirable if you have a big night planned). So long as most of your nights are spent sleeping well (or you have time for a good nap), your body will find the time to grow your hair.
She's run out of shampoo...we've all been there!



Some people swear by natural products, others take no issue with high street buys. If you have the money and time to invest in looking at natural products, you should always buy them. That or create your own from homemade ingredients. I can’t say I’ve noticed much difference between shop-bought and home made in terms of the effects on my hair but I’m fully aware that the less chemicals and artificial nasties, the better! You also do not need to wash your hair every day. It’s best to wash your hair every 2-3 days. If you can go past 3 days feeling happy about your hair, keep going! You don’t need to apply conditioner to your roots (unless you dye your hair) as this can make hair heavy, greasy and clog the scalp. It’s better to condition the longer parts of your hair only.
It looks great but your hair will hate you for it!


Regular heat styling is the bane of healthy hair. When you must style use heat protection, but be aware that heat protection doesn’t offer full protection for your hair. When styling, do not go over and over the same piece of hair 20 times; this intense, concentrated heat is horrible for hair over time. Styling now and again will cause no problems. Remember, you can create straight hair or curls with bristle brushes and your hairdryer, rather than with tongs.

Here are my three favourites: coconut, olive and Moroccan argan oil from Organix



I love applying argan oil or coconut oil to my hair after I wash it whilst it’s still damp and once again when it’s dry. The hair has its own inbuilt natural oils, but it’s nice to add a little extra for moisture, shine and care.
Experimenting with dyes is fun, but familiarise yourself with the risks


Many people with long hair regularly dye their hair. What you need to be aware of is that dying hair is a commitment requiring much upkeep and potential hair damage that will build over time. If you dye your hair, particularly if you are dying your hair a colour far removed from your own (brunette to blonde), you will need to dye more frequently and mask, oil and condition far more often.
Most people want to experiment with hair so by all means do it. Just understand that you may need to take extra care of your hair to make up for some of the damage. You can speak to stylists or friends about suitable dyes and products and their own experiences with their hair to make an informed choice.
For long term long hair, your natural colour is the better choice, but experimenting with colour is part of what makes hair so fun!
Wide toothed combs are great, as are bristle brushes


I gave up my brush for a wide toothed comb and it was the best move I made. Do not comb wet hair. Instead, comb hair before you wash it so that you can run your fingers through it. Then wash and allow hair to dry. If you need to comb/brush again, do so on dry hair. Also brush from the bottom up to detangle. Brushing from top to bottom can cause breakage.


Some look great and natural, others look obvious and some are just...WTF? Just please don't go there mmm'kay?


Anything that repeatedly tugs or pulls at the root of your hair will be damaging to it. Extensions are all the rage in our society but you’ll feel better knowing your hair is all yours! Extensions are also linked to alopecia and hair loss when used excessively over time and can actually think out natural hair.



Examples of BAD (above) and GOOD (below) hair ties


It’s better to use soft, silky hair ties rather than harsh elasticised ones that can end up tugging out hairs. It’s advisable to tie hair loosely in the night as if you’re anything like me you practically break-dance in your sleep!


FINALLY...let time pass and enjoy what you have made! J